In an earlier post, I wrote about hearing Oprah discuss Wayne Dyer’s views on ego (Edging God Out). It was a fascinating piece, and I had wanted to revisit some of the points. But as I mentioned, I was unable to find what I was looking for on the internet.
My girlfriend Colleen is in the process of creating her website. Colleen is a journal workshop facilitator and spiritual counselor out in the Las Vegas area. We have been friends going on 30 years now and have this amazing connection that transcends distance. After I posted my blurb on Wayne Dyer, she followed up on her site with some details from a talk she attended where he was the speaker. COINCIDENTALLY ~ and are there any really? ~ she posted exactly what I had been searching for:
Dyer described the ego as: a false self, an illusion, a belief system, the cause of all problems, an idea about who we are. Following is a summary of the three main components of the ego:
I. I am what I accumulate. I define myself by that which I own. Consequently, the more I own, the better I feel about myself. And, the less I own, the worse I feel about myself. This results in the never-ending pursuit of more and better matter. It also contributes to how I judge others and their worth. The problem with this belief is that if I ever lose what I have… who am I?
II. I am what I do. I identify myself with the work that I do in the world. “I am a teacher.” “I am a student.” “I am a mother.” I also judge others’ worth by what they do. What happens when I can no longer do what I do? I may have an identity crisis, feel worthless… who am I?
III. I am what other people think of me. This puts my identity in the hands of others. It results in people pleasing. I am constantly motivated and affected by the reactions and opinions of others. I look outside myself for validation. What if they don’t like me… who am I?
Interesting Question: As you consider these ideas, which one of these three beliefs do you find yourself most often misled by? How would your life be different if you were able to let go of that?
***You can read Colleen’s post in its entirety from her site. ***